Yesterday’s devotional asks readers to have a check list of what their marriages are going through now as compare to when they got married years back. Are there issues indicating marriage fire is going out already? This devotional starts with pointing out few features that should be noticed when marriage fire is about going out. Failure to notice these features or signals will be very dangerous in any marriage. One of the features is chronic feeling of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion. This talks of when both parties in the marriage are feeling bored, tied of everything, getting disinterested and fatigued with each other; physically, emotionally and mentally. At this point, love for one another takes off in a journey of disconnections.
Second thing to notice when marriage fire is about losing supply of power for fire outage is that, the couples begin developing wings in the relationship. What is happening at this point is the husband and the wife begin flying in different directions; each person is doing own things in isolation and independently whether good or bad. The two at this junction arrived at a decision of having nothing to do in common. This negates Biblical injunction of do nothing to harm the interest of the second party as seen in Philippians 2: 4. Let it be added here that, passion for each other will begin to die slowly, then eventually. Passionate love at all level is a strongest fuel of marriage. When passionate love is dying, imagery thick wall begins to build up in between the husband and wife. Then marriage fire outage sets in.
The last to be mentioned here because of space is systematic losing confidence in one another. There is no doubt that confidence is one of the life wires of marriage. Lack of confidence in marriage erodes intimate relationships, deflates good communication that is strong ingredient of love. This feature blocks verbal communication, sexual contact and acts as a thick blanket between transparency in the marriage. These features, though few, import other problems into the marriage that cause “marriage fire outage.” Good news is that, marriage fire outage is not total blackout. It can be rekindled. Follow us to the fourth series tomorrow.
FATHER JEHOVAH, I cannot be right completely to say my partner is reason for our marriage heading for “fire outage”; kindly show me my faults and give me grace to amend my ways to strengthen the love of our marriage in the name of Jesus Christ.